“when my husband eats my soup, I get crushed with anger.” Real Tragedies: Husband Eats Food Husband Eats

Forever here, in LiveJournal, they incite me to anything! As soon as I'm going to write something lyrical, and here - on you!

Of course, I also could not resist and immediately drove "husband ate ..." into the search bar - I got the result:

Such scary stories, just like that!

At one housewife, for example, the husband ate all the dog food from boiled old bones and did not choke. But even this story is nothing next to this:

"It doesn't happen either! I worked with a man who was too delicate. He came home from work from the 3rd shift, he wanted to eat. In order not to wake his wife, he did not turn on the light and in the dark began to fumble around the pots. And the wife that day cooked porridge for the dog and covered the pan with a rag. In short, he ate both porridge and a rag, in the morning he reprimanded his wife that the porridge was not salty and the meat was sinewy, he barely ate it. I was very surprised when I found out what I had eaten." panevin

"my late daddy (God rest his soul), ate pig food under the closet. The next day, he asked for yesterday's borscht)))) there were real slops from the kindergarten))))" Talissa

Another "daddy" ate a cucumber mask from the face of a dozing wife, and when she was indignant, he asked her wife to cut the fat on her face next time.

Men seem to eat everything that falls into their field of vision:

"My once cooked soup, well, he is a cook and cooks well in principle. I come home from work, he pours me soup, so tasty, I don’t remember which one. Then it just dawned on me, I ask, what kind of greens were in the soup, like there were no dill or parsley in the house. Yes, parsley was on the windowsill in a glass, he says. I almost fell - my geranium branch was rooting. So he shredded it))) "

But these are still good men, not capricious, omnivores. He put a rag on them, with which you wipe the fat from the stove, they will gobble it up instead of sausage for a sweet soul.
And there are bad men who eat human food! Take what tastes better!!!

“Damn, well, I don’t have enough strength, I bought a piece of expensive cheese, I think it will be a child, well, we don’t have much. I took 300 grams, my husband was sitting in the kitchen, fed, drinking tea. They didn’t even try it. I’m already shaking. A person has the feeling that he is alone at home, there is no one else and the cheese fell from the sky for me.
The same thing, a package of sausages lies a few days ago, he came, the package and ate it. I ask if it was really impossible to warm up 3 pieces with potatoes. And why, and so delicious.
Tomorrow I’ll hide what for, I got it ... "

"He eats baby food - without salt, I grind it in a blender. Nearby is normal food - soup, goulash. I ask:" Why are you eating baby food? Freak!"

“We live in economy mode - I want to finish this repair already !!! The food is the simplest. The child is 4 years old. I cook for him separately for now - it’s just meat for everyone - he needs beef, and so on with cheeses, yogurts and fruits. Husband, bastard, eats I want to eat - I ate 4 yogurts, damn it, it was before the end of the week! I ate this fig Nesquik, which I finished drinking for breakfast and milk. I'm furious!! I present it - I'm offended."

"It was the same bullshit. Now my husband is gone, Nesquik and yogurts are safe, I do repairs alone. Probably where he went, they allow him to eat a lot ..."

Lusie2
"Mine also threshed baby food, even taking into account that there was normal food nearby. Grit, he really, really wanted it. Apparently this food was sweeter, because the forbidden fruit. Guys are children
But the child steals cat food all the time"

Sympathetic readers vying with each other give advice on what to do with gluttonous husbands, such good advice, experience is felt:

“Cook, as in the Scoop, with a total shortage of food, immediately a bucket pot of borscht for a whole week. Let him eat at least strangle himself. As long as he doesn’t starve. At lunchtime and in the evening after work, we ate and came home full and satisfied.

"you put a laxative in the meat or a handful of nails, in the first case, he won't understand what's the matter, but you'll get high, and in the second, you will definitely get angry, there will be a scandal, but he may even stop eating, he will start cooking himself .. .well, it's like an option"

Oh, what can I say to all this? Is this a problem?! I have a problem like this: my husband drinks all the water from the kettle! Sitting - slurping tea, and I want to drink - the kettle is already empty !!!

Girls, what to do to teach him not to drink all the water in the house: turn off the water, hide the kettle? Pour cold water on it, hot?!
How do you cope with the problem of persistent drinking of water?!!!

When one of the spouses have feelings - this is a severe stress. Any changes in relationships for the worse are especially painful for a woman, since it is vital for her to be loved and desired. It is very difficult to accept the fact that a man has fallen out of love, so many wives continue to deceive themselves and play the perfect family. Such a position is very dangerous, as it presupposes inaction. It is much wiser to admit the problem and try to figure out what to do if the husband does not love his wife. What signs may indicate this?

Direct "evidence" or hidden hints?

As a rule, it is not necessary for a wife to have direct evidence that she is no longer loved. This is manifested even in small things, you just need to stop "burying your head in the sand" and analyze your husband's behavior. Psychologists advise paying attention to a whole range of factors that explain how a husband behaves if he does not love his wife.

The main signs of dislike

Do you need to save your family?

If a husband does not love his wife, what should she do? This is the first question that a woman must answer for herself. To make it easier to make a decision, you need to evaluate all the pros and cons of your man and understand whether you need to fight for him. Divorce is never easy, but living with a husband who has no feelings left is just as hard. Not every woman is ready to live with the hope that her husband will love her again.

Ways out of the situation

Psychologists assure that, once in this position, a woman can choose one of two options:

• Leave if there is no certainty that feelings will return, and do not torment yourself or your husband.
• Try to bring back a lost love.

Can a husband fall in love again?

Life is unpredictable, so this outcome is quite likely. But for this, a woman must make some efforts. First of all, you need to remember how the relationship began, and what initially attracted the man. After analyzing the relationship, the wife should also realize her mistakes, because for sure they were. It is useless to shift the blame only to the husband, this position is doomed to failure.

There are always signs that a husband does not love his wife. What signs may indicate this - you need to figure it out. A woman knows her husband best of all, so it will not be difficult for her to identify factors that provoke irritation. It is worth starting work on relationships by eliminating the causes that cause dissatisfaction with the husband.

Sometimes in such cases, a joint trip or a weekend spent together will be indispensable. The opportunity to retire and talk calmly is an important step towards mutual understanding.

There is always a difficult situation if a husband does not love his wife. What to do - the woman must decide. When she wants to return her husband's love, you should not impose yourself and become his shadow - this will push him away and cause a new wave of irritation. You can not show your loneliness and longing. A confident and happy woman attracts much more. In order for a husband to look at his wife with different eyes, she must also believe in her attractiveness and exclusivity. It is unlikely that a husband will want to idolize a woman who does not believe in herself.

Honor and praise

Every man loves to be admired. This is an integral feature of their nature, and many wise women take advantage of this. When a wife praises her husband and emphasizes his dignity, he feels confident next to her, and will constantly return for a new portion of admiration.

Probably, every woman from time to time thinks: if a husband does not love his wife, what signs should be present. Joint conversations on topics that are of interest to both will help restore past feelings. A woman can surprise her husband with her knowledge in various fields and show that she is smart and educated.

If you decide to leave...

Family life is not easy, so it often ends in divorce. When people have different values ​​and perceptions of the world, it is not easy for them to find a common language and keep love. At the beginning of a relationship, very little attention is paid to this fact, it seems that all difficulties can be overcome. But when feelings cool down, optimism quickly disappears, and often a situation arises when a husband does not love his wife. What signs will help determine this - any wife knows.

If a woman realizes that she is not ready to live with a man who does not love her, she decides to leave him. In such cases, resentment and misunderstanding do not allow an objective assessment of the situation, but it is worth making an effort on yourself and breaking up correctly. There is no need to accuse the husband of dislike, it is better to try to accept reality and let him go. Perhaps then the relationship will move to a new level, and everyone will be able to live their own lives.

What do the experts say?

If the husband does not love his wife, the psychologist's advice boils down to one thing - to analyze the relationship and future prospects. It is important to understand that all couples feel a chill at some point in time. When the cold drags on, the woman begins to realize that perhaps her husband has stopped loving her. It seems that he lives his own life, in which she has no place.

Each family may have its own reasons why it seems that a husband does not love his wife. Signs should be considered only in a complex. Psychologists believe that most often feelings cool down due to the fact that there was not enough emotional closeness between the spouses. Misunderstanding leads to the fact that the couple cannot find a compromise and come to an agreement. Problems grow, irritation accumulates, and quarrels do not fade away.

What to do?

When a woman realizes that her husband has lost interest in her, she thinks about how to return his feelings. But first of all, it is worth understanding: is it necessary to do this? Often, attempts to call a man to talk end in failure, since he is unlikely to discuss his feelings.

To avoid another scandal, a woman should express her thoughts calmly and judiciously, without stooping to insults. How does a husband behave if he does not love his wife? By his behavior, intonation and words, one can understand whether there is a chance to restore the family or whether one needs to come to terms with reality.

When a relationship is like a one-sided game, the wife needs to think about herself and remember that she, too, has the right to be happy. No need to continue meaningless conversations and try with all your might to keep your husband. Such actions will not lead to the creation of a strong family, but will bring new disappointments and the collapse of hope.

A woman must realize that, clinging to her back, she will never feel needed and desired. Sometimes loneliness is much more pleasant than constant torment and suffering, so you should not be afraid of it. In addition, it is time to find peace of mind and harmony, which will be useful for building new relationships. It is important to realize that one's own happiness does not depend on the actions of other people, it is achieved as a result of painstaking inner work on oneself.

For help go to church

If a husband does not love his wife, the questions the woman asks the priest will help her learn to believe in the best. You need to appreciate life, notice elementary joys and know that God sends only those trials that a person can endure.

Letter to the writer Svetlana Ermakova:

OLYA: Svetlana! I really like the idea of ​​a family-friendship.

I used to think: well, why does the family rest on the word "must, must"?

But that's how almost everyone lives. And in my environment in general, everything. And I thought it was just some kind of protest.

The first marriage fell apart, I took the child and a package of necessary things and went nowhere. But the attitudes were initially wrong, and instead of getting back on my feet, thinking about my own housing, I started looking for a husband so that he would provide me with housing, money, and everything else ...

But I had to work a lot, just a lot of work and earn extra money in order to somehow pay for rented housing and feed myself and the child, and the search for a husband dragged on.

Of all the qualities that my future husband should have, the most basic is the presence of a roof over his head, if only he would take me unfortunate with a child and shelter me. How can you not love yourself to think like that!

And then he met, who had that same notorious roof. And he invited me to live with him.

I was brought up to be grateful that a person did good to me, and immediately began to cook, wash, clean and court him, that is, to thank.

In response, I began to expect that they would also support me and “love” me in every possible way, but the person was in no hurry ...

At first I was angry, cursing, and then I left ... He mobilized, returned me (just like a thing, it becomes disgusting from myself).

But you can't go far with "must-should", and conflicts began with renewed vigor.

Then the second child was born, I was still "owed and obliged", but I understood: this is not a family, but what the hell.

And I came to your ideas: in the family, everyone decides for himself what to do and assigns himself responsibilities.

The husband does not like this, he wants to have always prepared food, cleanliness in the house, clean dishes, etc.

And I just now feel that I do not want to cook for him! I cook for children with pleasure. And when my husband eats my soup, I am directly crushed with anger that he will eat it, and I again need to cook.

My question is this: how can I, while maintaining my own dignity and calmness, tell my husband that I will NOT cook and serve him for him.

I have no love for him and no respect either. But while I do not have the opportunity to live with him separately, I do not foresee my own housing.

To my conversations that I am not a housekeeper, my husband has one answer: what for do I need you here if I do everything myself?

I do not yet have such an income to rent a house and support myself and two children, and he uses this to the fullest.

My husband has a three-room apartment, I have already talked about dividing the territory, each in his own room, and no one owes anything to anyone. But no, a scandal begins, the husband says that he does not need a neighbor. I'm so desperate...

Sorry, Svetlana, for taking up your time to read my letter. Maybe you've seen something like this before and can give me some advice? If you do not answer anything, I will be glad that I could just write you this letter.

(Svetlana Ermakova's answer will be published a little later)

Such scary stories, just like that!

At one housewife, for example, the husband ate all the dog food from boiled old bones and did not choke. But even this story is nothing next to this:

"It happens and not like that! I worked with a man who was too delicate. He came home from work from the 3rd shift, he wanted to eat. In order not to wake his wife, he did not turn on the light and in the dark began to rummage through the pots. And the wife cooked porridge that day dog and covered the pan with a rag. In short, I ate both porridge and a rag, in the morning I reprimanded my wife that the porridge was not salty and the meat was sinewy, I barely ate it. I was very surprised when I found out what I had eaten. panevin

"my late daddy (God rest his soul), ate pig food under the closet. The next day, he asked for yesterday's borscht)))) there were real slops from the kindergarten))))" Talissa

Another "daddy" ate a cucumber mask from the face of a dozing wife, and when she was indignant, he asked her wife to cut the fat on her face next time.

Men seem to eat everything that falls into their field of vision:

“Mine once cooked soup, well, he’s a cook and cooks well in principle. I come home from work, he pours soup for me, it’s so tasty, I don’t remember which one. , there was no parsley in the house. Yes, parsley was standing on the windowsill in a glass, she says. I almost fell - my geranium branch was rooting. So he chopped it))) "

But these are still good men, not capricious, omnivores. He put a rag on them, with which you wipe the fat from the stove, they will gobble it up instead of sausage for a sweet soul.
And there are bad men who eat human food! Take what tastes better!!!

“Damn, well, I don’t have enough strength, I bought a piece of expensive cheese, I think it will be a child, well, we don’t have much. I took 300 grams, my husband was sitting in the kitchen, fed, drinking tea. They didn’t even try it. I’m already shaking. A person has the feeling that he is alone at home, there is no one else and the cheese fell from the sky for me.
The same thing, a package of sausages lies a few days ago, he came, the package and ate it. I ask if it was really impossible to warm up 3 pieces with potatoes. And why, and so delicious.
Tomorrow I’ll hide what for, I got it ... "

"He eats baby food - without salt, I grind it in a blender. Nearby is normal food - soup, goulash. I ask:" Why are you eating baby food? Freak!"

“We live in economy mode - I want to finish this repair already !!! The food is the simplest. The child is 4 years old. I cook for him separately for now - it’s just meat for everyone - he needs beef, and so on with cheeses, yogurts and fruits. Husband, bastard, eats I want to eat - I ate 4 yogurts, damn it, it was before the end of the week! I ate this fig Nesquik, which I finished drinking for breakfast and milk. I'm furious!! I present it - I'm offended."

"It was the same bullshit. Now my husband is gone, Nesquik and yogurts are safe, I do repairs alone. Probably where he went, they allow him to eat a lot ..."

Lusie2
"Mine also threshed baby food, even taking into account that there was normal food nearby. Grit, he really, really wanted it. Apparently this food was sweeter, because the forbidden fruit. Guys are children
But the child steals cat food all the time"

Sympathetic readers vying with each other give advice on what to do with gluttonous husbands, such good advice, experience is felt:

“Cook, as in the Scoop, with a total shortage of food, immediately a bucket pot of borscht for a whole week. Let him eat at least strangle himself. As long as he doesn’t starve. At lunchtime and in the evening after work, we ate and came home full and satisfied.

"you put a laxative in the meat or a handful of nails, in the first case, he won't understand what's the matter, but you'll get high, and in the second, you will definitely get angry, there will be a scandal, but he may even stop eating, he will start cooking himself .. .well, it's like an option"

Oh, what can I say to all this? Is this a problem?! I have a problem like this: my husband drinks all the water from the kettle! Sitting - slurping tea, and I want to drink - the kettle is already empty !!!

Girls, what to do to teach him not to drink all the water in the house: turn off the water, hide the kettle? Pour cold water on it, hot?!
How do you cope with the problem of persistent drinking of water?!!!